A woman talks about her recent birthday party drama – and I wonder if she handled the situation correctly.

The woman, 25, posted on Reddit “Am I the A——” forum on Friday, November 22, to share that her roommate had offered to organize “a little birthday party” for her in their apartment. “I agreed because I don’t like large gatherings and prefer intimate celebrations with close friends,” she wrote, noting that she also suffers from “mild social anxiety.” .

The roommate – who the woman calls “Sara” in the post – “assured me it would be a ‘small get-together,’ just a few of our mutual friends, some cake and maybe a movie,” the poster original (OP) explained. “It seemed perfect to me.”

But when the day of the rally arrived, it was “anything but small,” she said. “Sara had invited a ton of people – at least 50. Some were mutual friends, but many were people I barely knew or hadn’t even met before. She also had set up lots of party decorations, hired a DJ and there was even a huge food and drink table.

“It was like a full-fledged house partynot the chill meeting I was expecting,” the OP continued, sharing that she “immediately felt overwhelmed.”

She also shared that she “doesn’t do well in large social situations, especially when I’m the center of attention, and that was way more than I expected.”

“After trying to hold on for a while, I just couldn’t do it and decided to leave,” she recalls. “I ended up going to a nearby cafe to calm down and clear my head.”

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Wondering where the OP had gone, Sara apparently texted and asked where she had gone, to which the OP replied, “I wasn’t comfortable with the party and needed to ‘space.” This apparently upset Sara, who accused the Reddit user of being “ungrateful.”

The woman went on to share that while some of her friends are standing by her after the incident, others think she “overreacted” and that “Sara was just trying to be nice by setting me up a big party.”

“I feel bad for leaving, but I also feel like she completely ignored what I wanted,” she concluded, adding, “(Am I the a—- –) for leaving my own birthday party because it was ‘Not the “small” event I was expecting?

Most Reddit users supported the OP’s decision to leave her birthday party.

“She knew you wanted a little reunion, and she knew why you wanted it. Sara threw the party she wanted instead, and now she’s trying to guilt you into being ‘grateful’ for not having to “admit. she sucks. The truth is she ruined your birthday, she’s a lousy friend,” one commenter wrote.

Another person called the OP “mature,” writing, “The party went more than expected and made you uncomfortable, you shouldn’t have to stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable.” feel comfortable even if it’s your birthday party.

Others suggested she speak with Sara and express their appreciation while explaining their dislike of crowds. “Social anxiety can vary in magnitude, so people don’t always understand how much others are suffering,” one person wrote.