CLEVELAND, Oh, my husband and I are looking for a place to live. I am very attentive to political signs in the areas we study. I have refused to even look at or consider homes that are located in neighborhoods or in which neighbors clearly support certain candidates. Some even fly flags that I personally find offensive.

He thinks my thinking is ridiculous – that my thought process is preventing us from finding really nice homes in our price range and great deals on homes.

I understand that even though these homes are in our price range and check some boxes, I would not feel comfortable in these neighborhoods. I don’t see myself socializing with those who live around me. I don’t even think I would feel safe, especially considering my nationality.

He thinks I’m overreacting and reminds me that just because neighbors don’t have political signs outside their homes doesn’t mean they aren’t racist or don’t have points of view. view opposed to ours.

Although I understand that, I told him that at least if it wasn’t visible I would feel better.

Reader question: Am I overreacting or should I stick to my intuition and stay away from these neighborhoods?

Answer: Obviously, you and your husband are not on the same page about this. But you will both live there. Buying a home is a huge commitment.

No one wants to feel uncomfortable in their own home or neighborhood. If you’re ready to buy, I think you’d like to stay put for a while.

This is also a very important election, and many people have felt the need to openly show their support for the candidate they believe in. Ask yourself this: what if you were looking at these same properties at a different time of year, when there was no election. political signs, would you still be interested?

Your husband is right to point out that not everyone will openly show support for the candidates, so you may not know where your neighbors stand on their political beliefs. This election has already divided many people. Just because you don’t have the same opinions as your neighbor doesn’t mean you can’t be civil or get along.

Visit these neighborhoods during the day on a weekend when people may be outside. Stop and ask for directions or a question about the community. See if they are friendly before moving forward.

Ultimately, you have to follow your instincts. Homes aren’t cheap and you should be happy with your purchase and, most importantly, feel secure.

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