Jesse Metcalfe is not desperate to date someone in entertainment!

THE Desperate housewives 45 year old former student and his girlfriend, Helene Immelassisted Cirque du Soleil KOOZA premiere on Thursday, Oct. 24, and he exclusively told PEOPLE what it’s like to date the real estate agent.

“It’s always a good balance for someone in this crazy business to date someone outside of the entertainment industry,” Metcalfe noted at the red carpet event in Santa Monica, Calif. .

Although Immel has released music under the stage name Lenatchka many years ago, she now concentrates her work in the real estate sector.

THE ancient Dancing with the stars competitor and Immel have been dating since 2023. The couple went Instagram official on Metcalfe’s 45th birthday on Dec. 9, when she posted a photo of them together on a hike.

“Here’s to many more hikes with you. Happy birthday baby @realjessemetcalfe ,” Immel captioned her photo, in which she had her hand and head resting lovingly on his left shoulder.

Since then, the John Tucker must die The star and his girlfriend attended several events together, including the opening night of the Los Angeles Art Show on Valentine’s Day, an NFL game in September, and the EMA Awards gala on Saturday, October 26. among other couple outings.

At the Cirque du Soleil event, Metcalfe said they were “super excited to be here” after the brand invited them. “They are incredible,” he added.

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He also revealed to PEOPLE that he hadn’t watched Desperate housewives, which ran from 2004 to 2012 for eight seasons on ABC, for a long time.

“It’s been a minute – probably when it aired,” he admitted.

On Desperate housewivesMetcalfe played gardener John Rowland opposite Eva LongoriaGabrielle Solis, the wealthy housewife of .

When asked if he compared his abs then to now, the actor replied: “Yes, I think I’m in better shape now.” I kind of had this younger, slimmer physique. Since then, I have gained a few pounds, but in a good way.

Metcalfe also explained that staying in shape keeps him mentally strong.

“The most important thing about (training) for me is that it keeps my mind clear,” he said. “On days when I have a busy morning and don’t get to the gym until the afternoon, I can feel it.

The star added: “It’s a stress reliever, and it’s always been an anchor for me, you know, ever since I started working out when I was 14 or 15.”