The honeymoon period is over for a newlywed couple who face a bit of wrath from their family for not sending them thank you cards in the mail.

In an article on Redditis popular “Am I the A——?” forum, a newly married woman wonders if she’s wrong for not sending wedding thank you cards to her husband’s family, even though they all live in the same household.

In her post, the 28-year-old explained that she and her husband, also 28, sent thanks to everyone who attended their wedding, as well as a few who didn’t. was able to send them a card or a gift. They live in a duplex with the groom’s sister, which they rent from her parents, so they assumed it wasn’t “necessary” to send them thank you cards since they “see everyone almost every day.” days” and thought it would have been “repetitive”. ” based on what they told them in person.

“We personally thanked my husband’s parents for their help and his sister for everything,” the woman wrote. “We thanked them several times after each event.”

Although verbal thanks were enough for the bride’s family, they were not enough for the groom’s.

“Last night my husband went to his mother and gave her the mail and she asked him if we sent thank you cards. He told her we did and she mentioned that she didn’t. had not received and that her sister had not received any for the bridal shower,” said the woman, who then offered to take her family out to dinner. “We talk to her sister every day, but we made sure to thank her after the bridal shower because we live together and we told her a lot of thanks and that she didn’t need to get us anything either.”

The woman asks, “Were we supposed to send them thank you cards even though we live with them?”

Most Redditors sided with the groom’s family in the comments section.

“I would definitely send them a very heartfelt card or letter,” one person commented in part. “In fact, at this point I would send them a letter explaining everything they have done for you and continue to do, providing you with accommodation and help with your wedding or shower. The written words mean so much to many of us.”

Another Reddit user added: “The idea that someone couldn’t take a few minutes out of their day to write a simple thank you note is mind-boggling to me.”

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On the other hand, a few users said the family shouldn’t have expected cards when they received verbal gratitude.

“But she recognized his kindness. In person. Many times,” someone else wrote. “Why does it have to be a text, a card or a letter?”