Man doesn’t know if he’s a ‘bad brother and uncle’ after refusing to cook daily meals for his sister’s children, without compensation.

The man took to Reddit Am I forum A—— on November 7 to explain the situation to his fellow editors.

“My older sister (37F) has 3 children under 10. Me (25M) don’t have any children yet but I’m a junior sous chef and I cook a lot in my free time,” she said. he started.

“Recently, while on leave, my sister asked me if I could look after your children after school for three days. I said yes. I looked at the children. She paid me for it and I thought that would be it,” he continued. “But then she asked me what the kids were eating with me after the week was over and then she wanted how I got his children to eat a full meal.”

The man added that children are usually “picky eaters” who will “eat what they like on a plate” and then “leave the rest”.

He noted that he was able to get the children to eat a wider variety of foods by mixing “vegetables and other good things into their dinner the first day,” hiding the vegetables “in plain sight” on the second day and serving some foods in a different location. “as they do not normally receive them” on the third and last day.

The Redditor said his sister and brother-in-law tried to replicate the healthy recipes but couldn’t get them to eat them.

“So she wanted me to prepare food for her children every day,” he continued. “I asked her if she was going to pay me for spending all this time and money and she told me I should do it to help my nieces and nephews stay healthy. I told him that was a big ask. She told me I had the chance to really help and use my skills for the family.

“I feel like it’s a lot to ask because they expect me to do something every day for the kids. But my sister feels like I’m a bad brother and uncle,” he concluded by asking Reddit if he was the “a——” in this scenario.

The post received over 7,000 upvotes and nearly 1,000 comments, with almost all commenters siding with the original poster.

“Your sister is deluding herself. Research prices for meal preparation services that would be equivalent to what she wants. Then add your time. This is the value of your services,” one comment read.

Another person suggested that the sister might need some cooking class.

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“They are his children, they are his responsibility and not yours,” they wrote. “What she should have asked is if you could give her recipes or even cooking classes where she would pay for the ingredients. She’s taking advantage of you.

Another user pointed out that the kids’ difficulty may have had nothing to do with how the food was prepared.

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“Her kids are doing what all kids do,” the Redditor wrote. “They say no to their parents because they feel comfortable and say no without real repercussions. You are their uncle, but not as comfortable as a parent. They will eat what you tell them. Over time, they will stop with you too. Your sister needs to learn how to feed her children.

The observation was seconded by another user.

“All of this.” they wrote in response to the previous comment. “It’s a power game with kids. 90% chance your sister can serve the food you made and she won’t eat it (unless she says you made it, then 50/50 for her to eat it And no…you don’t have to prepare food for your sister for free.