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    Dear Abby: Was it unreasonable to ask my rude neighbor for a text before she stopped by?

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    DEAR ABBY: Do you think it’s unreasonable to ask an acquaintance/neighbor to send a quick text before stopping by? This neighbor lives in the same subdivision as me. She’s friendly enough and we occasionally walk our dogs together, but she has a habit of coming over unexpectedly.

    I was out one afternoon and noticed later, while looking at my security camera, that she had walked by and brought another woman and her dog with her. I texted her and let her know I saw she stopped by and in the future I would prefer that she text me before stopping by. Now she’s offended and says she’ll “never stop again.”

    I saw her walking past my house recently and went out to talk to her. When I tried to talk to her, she raised her hand and said, “Don’t even talk to me!” I think it’s childish and full of drama. What do you think? — GREW UP IN OHIO

    DEAR GRAND: I agree with you. The woman overreacted to your message.

    This is one of the reasons why I think talking on the phone or face to face is a better way to communicate, because there is less chance that someone will misinterpret a terse message and be offended.

    As for his directive that you shouldn’t talk to him, accept it. Arriving at someone’s house without warning is inconsiderate, bordering on rude.

    Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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