• Jude Law recently opened up about his marriage to Philippa Coan, a behavioral psychologist.

• Law said they “talked a lot about how they felt” and had a “very healthy relationship.”

• Although communication is important in a relationship, couples need to be intentional about it.

Jude LoiThe key to a healthy marriage is good communication.

In an interview with GQ published Tuesday, the English actor spoke about his relationship with his wife, Phillipa Coan.

When asked if Coan, 38, helped him make bolder career choices, Law, 51, agreed. “Yeah, I think so,” he said.

“Plus, Phil is a psychologist,” he said. “We therefore benefit from a very healthy relationship where we talk a lot about how we feel, our relationships with our friends, our relationships with our families, and she has a wonderful perspective on all of that. »

The “The Talented Mr. Ripley” actor added that middle-aged people should start thinking about their relationship models.

“What patterns have I created? What relationships do I have? Why do I have them like this? How do I feel about them?” he said.

Law met Coan, a behavioral psychologist and business coach, through a mutual friend. They married in 2019 and share two children, whom they keep out of the spotlight.

The law is a father of five other children from his past relationships with Sadie Frost, Samantha Burke and Catherine Harding. He was previously married to Sadie Frost and engaged to Siena Miller.

A representative for Law did not immediately respond to a request for comment from Business Insider sent outside of normal business hours.

Communication in a healthy relationship

Chris Leeth, a professor of counseling at the University of Texas at San Antonio, previously told BI that have clear communication is the sign of a healthy relationship. This suggests that both partners can express and understand each other’s wants and needs, he said.

Be honest with everyone’s feelings is the key. Cassandra Fallon, a therapist and regional clinic director at Thriveworks, previously told BI that couples should strive to share their feelings without guilt or fear.

“Open honesty can promote truthfulness and transparency, encouraging an overall healthy relationship that eradicates problems or conflicts rather than ignoring their existence,” she said.

Nonetheless, couples should strive to adopt healthy communication habits rather than unpack every relationship problemwhich can be overwhelming.

Sandra White, 58, has been married for 18 years and previously told BI that she used to blow the whistle on every problem in her relationship with her partner. “It was super negative and it caused a lot of friction,” she said.

Now, White and her husband schedule a time each week to talk about their problems. This allowed them to be more intentional in their discussions and no longer take out their frustrations on each other.

“Yes, I want to be with this man. He’s a wonderful man, so I have to think, is this worth a big conversation?” she said. “And sometimes it is. But a lot of little things get left out.”

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