A WOMAN who didn’t invite one of her fiancé’s colleagues to their wedding has revealed why she did it.

After spending the better part of a year carefully planning the big day, the 29-year-old admitted her future husband’s “work wife” cast a shadow over it all.

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They have worked together for 30 years and are quite close, she admitted on Reddit.

In fact, they spend a lot of time messaging each other, leaving the bride-to-be feeling like the third wheel in her own relationship.

But things took a turn for the worse at the couple’s engagement party when she overheard her partner and his “work wife” talking.

She apparently told him he could “always marry me instead”, leaving the woman stunned.

That’s when the bride-to-be decided not to invite him to the wedding.

“At first, I was honestly relieved that he had a good friend at work, especially since his job can be demanding and a little isolating,” she wrote on Reddit.

“I tried to be a cool, understanding partner who wasn’t bothered by their closeness.

“But over time, their bond has become… well, it’s become something that I just don’t know how to deal with.”

The bride added that their relationship wasn’t always appropriate, and they often talked late at night and shared jokes.

“She knows things about him that I sometimes don’t, and it hurts to realize how much he looks to her for advice and laughs for me.

“My fiancée reassures me that they are just friends, that she is his work wife and that it’s no big deal.

“But I feel like she’s so close that sometimes I’m the one looking out,” she added.

The worker’s wife even took issue with the wedding venue when she found out where it would be held, as well as the flowers, because “he never liked bright colors.”

And his reluctance towards the big day doesn’t stop there; she even told the bride future her husband wouldn’t like her dress because she “knew his style.”

The bride said she tried to laugh it off, but his pokes hurt and left her unsure about her relationship.

Things finally came to a head at the engagement party when she overheard their conversation and felt left out again.

After the party, she confronted her partner about the comment, but he ignored her, saying his work wife was “just playing around”.

She said: “I felt like I was going crazy, like maybe I was seeing something that wasn’t there, but… how could anyone accept hearing that from someone so close to her fiancé?”

That’s when she decided not to invite him out into the open anymore because she was getting too close for comfort, but her partner didn’t agree.

He responded, saying that not inviting her now would “damage her reputation at work.”

Other Reddit users told the bride that not inviting her was the right thing to do, with some noting that their relationship felt like an “emotional affair.”

One said: “Her comments are completely inappropriate and your fiancé’s willingness to side with her and choose her over you is extremely concerning.

“I can absolutely predict that on the wedding day, she’s going to try to be involved in everything.”

And another agrees: “He sees the situation as having to choose between the two women. He already puts his colleague on the same level as his fiancée; which means that it is not attached to the fundamental principle of marriagewhich means abandoning all others.

“He has no concept of emotional boundaries and needs some schooling.”

Four Red Flags That Your Partner is Cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees has revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.

They start taking their phones with them everywhere

In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones. If their phone habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts carrying their phone with them everywhere, even at home, or becomes defensive when you ask them to use their phone, this could be a sign that he is not faithful.”

“You should also look at how they position their phone when they’re not using it. If they’re facing the phone with the screen down, then they might be hiding something.”

They start talking to you less about their day

When partners cheat, they may start to avoid you, this may be because they feel guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner has suddenly started avoiding you and doesn’t want to do things with you anymore or stops talking to you about their day, then that’s another red flag .”

“Partners often avoid their spouse or talk to them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, remembering all your lies is impossible, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” Aaron says.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can change for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a sure sign of cheating, but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.

Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but sometimes they may also have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and for them it will make them feel good, it can cause tension and anxiety in themselves that they will have to justify.

“To get rid of the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog this that day, put away the dishes or read a book to your children before bed. A small problem like this can now seem serious and if you experience it, your partner could cheat on you,” warns Aaron.