• A bride-to-be has a dream dress color palette for her wedding, which requires her bridesmaids to wear dusty pink while the mothers wear dark pink.
• But the bride’s future mother-in-law preferred bridesmaid dresses, so she ordered one for herself behind the bride’s back.
• Now the bride’s fiancé and her mother say she’s the one causing family friction over the dress.

The dress drama drives a wedge between the bride-to-be and her future mother-in-law.

In an article on Redditis popular “Am I the A——?” forum, a bride who got married in May asked Reddit users to weigh in on whether or not she was in the wrong when faced with a clothing dilemma. She explained that she was considering having her bridesmaids wear a dusty pink dress. Meanwhile, mothers and grandmothers will wear dresses in a darker shade of pink.

“I told her she could choose her own style of dress, but this is the color I would like it to be,” the bride said of her future mother-in-law. “She was OK with it, but then she starts scrolling online.”

The mother-in-law initially showed the bride a dress that matched the color scheme, and they were both happy with it. But then she continued looking for alternative dresses and found the exact dusty pink dress the bride had chosen for her bridesmaids.

“I politely tell her that this is the dress I chose for the bridesmaids (and that she) please choose something else,” the bride wrote.

Later that day, the two went to a game bar to celebrate the bride’s fiancé’s brother’s birthday. While the bride was in the bathroom, the mother-in-law showed the groom-to-be both dresses – the dusty pink bridesmaid dress and the darker dress – and asked him to choose which one looked better on her .

“When I came out, he picked out the bridesmaid dress I showed him and clearly told her no,” the bride explained. “And she agreed with him and ordered the dress.”

With just six months until the wedding, the bride said she is now “scrambling” and “struggling” to find a new dress and color for her bridesmaids since her mother-in-law ordered her wedding dress. his dreams.

“I’ve talked to my mom and my bridesmaids and tried to go back to the drawing board, but just thinking about it upsets me,” she wrote.

The bride talked to her future mother-in-law about it, but she told her the dress was already on its way and she didn’t have enough money to order another one.

“This makes me feel a little bad and guilty,” the bride continued in her post. “But every time I look for another dress, it’s like I had this one in mind for them and now I have to find it.”

When she told her partner of 12 years, he showed no sympathy.

“He tells me why I’m so difficult and tells me it’s just a dress and he’s annoyed that I’m bringing it up,” the woman wrote, noting that her fiancé eventually agreed to ask his mother to find another dress, but only because she keeps going. “complain about it.”

She continued, “But I figure I showed you what everyone was going to wear so we could match it accordingly. Why would you even agree knowing that’s the dress I have chosen for them? He claimed he forgot and apparently I’m the problem…and causing friction.

Commenters on Reddit determined that the bride was not wrong.

“MIL intentionally asked someone else after you told her no, which directly made you feel bad,” one person commented. “This behavior by MIL reminds me of a child who asked a parent a question, received an answer they didn’t like, then went to the other to get a more favorable answer.”

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Similarly, another person wrote: “MIL knew exactly what she was doing. She waited for you to go to the bathroom so she could ask her son. I’d bet she got him to pick out that particular dress. She knew it was the (bridesmaid) and decided to use this as a sort of power play. She was probably hoping you would make a complete deal of it so she could say it was you. overreact, that it was also his wedding and you explain to him how he chose the dress FOR her and not the other way around.

Other commenters also pointed out that the mother-in-law could probably return the bridesmaid dress once she received it, allowing her to purchase a different dress.