A wedding guest felt “incredibly embarrassed” when she was asked to leave for disregarding etiquette and wearing a white dress – only her dress was actually yellow.

In an article on Reddit“Am I the A——?” forum, the guest explained that she recently attended a close friend’s wedding and wore a yellow dress for the occasion. “Think Belle in The beauty of the beast YELLOW. Yellow bumblebee. So yellow that I didn’t question whether or not it was appropriate to wear it to a wedding, nor did my friends or family,” she wrote.

At first, her dress was a success. The guest said she received many compliments on it, including from the bride who said “repeatedly” that she loved the look. But later that night, when the main lights of the reception hall were dimmed and the black lights were turned on, the guest’s dress suddenly appeared white in color.

She was soon approached by a member of the wedding party, who told her she had to leave because her dress was “white and inappropriate.” The guest tried to explain the situation, but to no avail.

“I said the dress was yellow but the black lights made it look white. The wedding party member said if I didn’t leave she would ‘make’ me,” the guest recalled, explaining that the The conversation quickly gained momentum. “tense” and “heated”.

“I stated that I was here to celebrate my friend, I repeated that the dress was yellow and I said I wouldn’t leave early,” she continued. “The wedding party member walked away and I watched as they immediately went to talk to the groom, pointing angrily in my direction. The groom shrugged his shoulders and continued dancing.”

While the guest thought that was the end of the affair, she was later criticized by a friend for refusing to leave the marriage. “They stated that they had heard what happened and that I should have left when asked because it made people ‘uncomfortable’ and that I was talking about ‘doing party’ rather than ‘respecting wedding etiquette,'” she wrote.

Now the customer wonders if she was wrong to stay put and stay at the reception. “Am I the —— for not leaving the marriage when asked?” » she concluded her post, inviting people to share their opinions on dress.

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Most commenters assured the guest that she didn’t break any rules of etiquette and that the wedding party member was “out of line” for asking her to leave.

“Who checks her attire under black lights to see if she “passes?” “Ridiculous,” one person wrote. “I understand if it appeared white under normal lights, but come on, it was an unusual situation at the end of the reception. You are fine and whoever came near you was completely and utterly out of line. Some people have nothing better to do than look for problems that don’t exist.

Someone else chimed in: “Pro tip: When they turn out the lights and turn on a black light, the ‘wedding etiquette’ part of the evening is over and it’s all about partying.”

Others pointed out that the only people who had the right to question guests’ attire were the bride and groom — and they didn’t seem to mind.

“The bride liked the dress and told you so several times. When told your dress looked white under the black lights, the groom shrugged his shoulders and continued dancing. The next time someone ‘One says something, laugh… and if he repeats something, laugh louder and longer,’ someone wrote.

One commenter blamed it all on the venue. “Who has black light at a wedding reception? Anyone wearing so many types of appropriate colors would appear white. Rather, it depends on the venue or person who decided on black lights.”