DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have a great relationship with our ex-son-in-law. He comes to visit us with his girlfriend who we met via video chat; we love it too.

How to present them to people? “This is our ex-son-in-law and his girlfriend”?

GENTLE READER: This could encourage uncomfortable follow-up questions for the girlfriend.

Miss Manners suggests introducing them by name instead. After that, you can add, “Carter is like family to us and we are so excited to meet Ellie.” »

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