Teddi Mellencamp ‘took responsibility’ for her role in her divorce from Edwin Arroyave after announcing their separation.

The “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” alum admitted she “cried and cried” and “apologized” for any wrongdoing after her affair with her married horse trainer was revealed.

“The only person who can change your life is you. We have 2 options: pretend to be a victim or stand up and fight for ourselves. We all deserve peace and happiness,” Mellencamp said. on an Instagram video of herself working on Sunday.

“I cried and cried. I took responsibility and apologized for the things I did wrong. Now I have given myself permission to grow and flourish.

The reality star, 43, also explained why she chose to stay silent amid speculation her marriage was ending.

“I decided not to pander to the media and give my point of view because in the grand scheme of things (clickbait) doesn’t mean anything and of course there are 3 sides to every story,” he said. -she added.

“How do I stand up and show up for people who do (mean something). That’s what we call being an adult. This is what it means to say it with my full chest.

The Bravo personality added in her caption, “Comments are on ,” after being criticized by her followers for previously turning them off. amid her divorce drama.

Earlier this month, a source with direct knowledge told Page Six that Mellencamp had an affair with a married friend.

The mother of three is said to have I went out to Arroyave47 years old, several times from May.

Page Six identified the man Mellencamp allegedly cheated with as his horse trainer, Simon Schroeder. His then-wife was identified as Karli Postel.

After Mellencamp’s alleged dalliance became public, sources with direct knowledge told Page Six that Arroyave had already attacked his wife in 2015.

A close source claimed he had been having an affair with a woman named Missy for “at least a year,” while a separate source claimed the affair was closer to “six months.”

Mellencamp announced that she would be file for divorce from her ex-husband via Instagram on November 2.

“After much care and consideration, I have made the difficult decision to file for divorce,” she wrote in a statement.

“My priority is my children and I am ensuring that every consideration is given to their privacy and well-being throughout this new chapter.”

The exes – who married in 2011 – share three children, son Cruz and daughters Slate and Dove.