When my mother passed away, I remember thinking, Thank God I had talked to her about her own life because I think sometimes when a parent dies there can be a moment afterward where you’re like, “Oh Gosh, I wish I knew more. . I would have liked to ask them questions about their childhood, about the first job they had or about their past loves. The other day I was like, “My God, how lucky I am,” because they’ll have this whole film library of what I look like from 17 and all the way through. I was pregnant while working with my children. They’ll be able to see knowing that it’s them inside that pregnant belly, things like that. It’s rather extraordinary.

We ask you a lot of questions about Eternal sunnot to mention Titanic Or Mare. What projects would you like to have been asked about? more?

I would appreciate it if people asked me more about Revolutionary RoadIn fact. What people say is, “You need to work with Leo again. » Then they go off on the whole Leo tangent, which I completely understand, but Revolutionary Road– damn, that knocked us all sideways. Incredibly difficult material. I was very proud of this film and what Leo and I were able to create as Frank and April. It was so brutal. So I’m a little surprised.

I guess the other one might be Iris. People don’t really ask me questions Iris. It’s such a delicate film. It was the first thing I did after having my daughter. I’m going to work with a baby, I’m playing Iris Murdoch, I’m looking to Judi DenchIris Murdoch, the eldest, I shit myself.

I saw you talking about doing Lee a little, and I saw you cry several times thinking about it. How do you typically abandon projects? Is it difficult for you?

Some life experiences stay with you. Some characters you play stay with you. Lee is someone who will stay with me in ways that I cannot understand because she was so inspiring in the way she lived her life, how she traveled the world, how she carried her physical being . She was without shame. I get very emotional when I talk about the film because it was such an authentic telling of his story. We had her photographs and we were tasked with creating narratives about how she came to capture each of these images. Lee never told anyone what happened to him.

Sometimes it can be a complete joy to let go and say, “Okay, we’re done.” “I might want to do that, but I can’t do it, and that’s when I’m like, “Okay, how am I going to talk about the therapy scenes in Mare and I still don’t find them moved four and a half years later? Because personally, I do. I don’t want this to sound indulgent or weird, but I have a hard time letting go sometimes, which is probably why I don’t work more. I find I have to take big breaks between things to come back to life and restart. This has always been my way of handling things.