He orders for you and you feel special and cared for. He walks outside the street as you walk towards the restaurant. He breathes chemistry.

He will touch you a lot, or if you are not the type to show affection in public, he will quickly understand it and accommodate you. Charming is his middle name. It wouldn’t be surprising if he brought you a gift. Sounds a lot like the perfect guy, doesn’t it?

I know and that’s what’s scary. So, is there a way to know how to spot a narcissist on the first date without them breaking your heart in the end?

Here are ten signs that you are on a date with a very narcissistic man:

1. He always makes conversation about her

The narcissist cannot help but shift the focus to himself in the conversation. No matter what you’re talking about, he’ll take the first opportunity to talk about his own experiences.

On a first date, it’s charming because he is charismatic and funny. You might feel a little hurt because he’s not curious about you, but you can ignore it because you don’t want to hurt his feelings. Know, this research from 2010 confirms that a narcissist often appears charming at first glance.

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2. He doesn’t show real interest in you

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At the end of the night, does he know anything about you? Have you heard any stories from childhood to the present day? Did he talk to you about travel, pets and politics? Was he obsessed with wine tasting, sports or cars? If you feel a little neglected on the first date, don’t ignore it.

3. He is impatient and entitled

Watch how it handles delays and interference. If your table isn’t ready or the waiter is inattentive, a narcissist is having a fit. Complaints and accusations of poor service and bad tips are all how to spot a narcissist on the first date.

4. He is picky about where you sit

Your date may be very picky about where the restaurant seats you. He will want to have a table in a prominent location and certainly not near the kitchen or in a back corner. Narcissists view themselves as special and deserving of admiration and recognition, and they expect special treatment to accompany it.

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5. He makes you feel special so he can get something from you

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When a narcissist is interested in something you have and feels that you can meet one of their needs, they will be all about you. They are experts at making you feel special; From ordering for you at a restaurant to looking out for you as you walk through traffic, they will amaze you with attentiveness. It’s about satisfying their thirst for money, control, or intimacy that drives their affection for you.

6. He demands your full attention

Narcissists do not do well when they are distracted by someone or something else. He may be sarcastic and tease you about how much time you spend on your cell phone or how much time you spend talking about your day. An expert in the art of stealing conversations, it won’t be long before he starts talking about himself again. He likes to be the center of attention.

7. He is socially savvy

Your date can be charming and outgoing towards the waiters and other restaurant patrons, as long as they give him attention and excellent service. He may have strong social skills and easily engage in conversation with others.

But if you watch and listen, you’ll see it’s a new audience hearing his stories and laughing at his jokes. Even though he seems to be reaching out to others, it’s all about him.

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8. He criticizes everything

Listen to a litany of complaints about his life, his work, his living situation or whatever he is talking about. Narcissists continually find fault. Research from Harvard University confirms that complaining is actually bad for your brain.

They send postal messages for anything they perceive as an inconvenience. He may go through a red light because he thinks it has been red for too long and he is tired of city authorities controlling his traffic. (True story!)

9. He displays how much money and time he spends on you

A manic about feeling appreciated and annoyed when he feels dismissed, your date can make sure you know how expensive the dinner was and how much trouble he had getting the reservations or any other veiled complaints about all the trouble he went to… just for you. No matter how grateful you are, you never really feel like he believes it.

10. You have terrible chemistry

A classic sign of narcissism is intimate charm and chemistry. According to The New Republic Jeffrey Kluger“Men who score high on narcissism, impulsive thrill-seeking, or exploitation – not to mention those who score high on all of them, which some do – also tend to exceed other men in several intimate encounters over the course of a given week, month, or year.”

Good girls are inexplicably attracted to bad boys. The hotter the chemistry, the faster you should run away. If your partner has any of these tendencies, it may be within the normal range of narcissism, which means you can meet this challenge with humor and clear boundaries. But if there are warning signs, heed them.

Move slowly and get to know this guy. Examine it like your life depends on it, because it might one day. If you have any doubts, take your time before moving in.

Bad boys are attractive and exciting. Adding toxic narcissism to this mix can create a trap that a horny woman can easily fall into. Make sure you have a friend or family member you can confide in and be honest about this guy. Take your time and get to know him before getting too involved.

If you think you may be suffering from depression or anxiety as a result of ongoing emotional abuse from a narcissist, you are not alone. Domestic violence can happen to anyone and is no reflection on who you are or anything wrong you have done. If you feel you may be in danger, assistance is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year through the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-7233. If you are unable to talk safely, text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474.

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Catherine Béhan is a highly qualified dating coach, freelance writer, and editor. She currently works as a Law of Attraction and Success Coach, where she uses her expertise in EFT to help people attract abundance into their lives.