Chemistry kills. Let’s be real: as soon as your lips lock, the superglue holding you together is cemented and you’re hooked. It always happens. Your body makes sure you don’t miss each other.

So what’s the problem? Only a fraction of these hot and heavy relationships have any staying power. Some experts estimate that 80% of “chemistry-based” relationships fail within three months.

Here are five signs that your new guy might be the real deal (despite the chemistry), and how to know if what you’re feeling is legitimate and if the man on the receiving end deserves your love.

Here are five early signs that a man has real husband potential:

1. He treats the restaurant staff with kindness

No, I’m not talking about good manners…well, not eating habits anyway. A wise woman once told me, “Look at how your man treats waitresses. You will learn a lot about his character. »

Kindness and generosity towards blue and pink collar workers is a genuine trait that is not easy to fake. When you fall in love at first sight (and it’s real), it’s often because the kindness we see in him triggers a chemical reaction. According to a study published in Archives of sexual behavior, women want kindness more than anything in a partner.

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2. He has excellent relationships with the women in his family

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How he takes care of his mother? Sisters? Ex? When I met my husband (my second, I met him at 52), he still took his ex-mother-in-law on trips away from her rehab house once a month, even though he was divorced for years.

He still treats me today with old-fashioned chivalry and that’s one of the things I love most about him. According to a 2017 survey conducted by the dating app Match, 73% of women unfortunately believe that chivalry is dead – change your mind!

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3. He is busy and fulfilled by a hobby or productive career

If you fall for a man who is on fire about his own life and still takes the time to put you first, that’s a good sign. The Universe might be able to create happily ever after lives with broke and unemployed guys; after all, nothing is impossible.

But is that what you want? Chemistry with a man with no income can be hot, but it’s rarely the real deal. According to a study by Western Sydney University90% of women would prefer dating a man who is ambitious and earns his own money.

4. He’s not your type

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Countless people who fall in love at first sight—couples who claim to have known early on that their partner was the one—say the same thing: “We met in a very surprising way. I never expected to be with someone like him. That’s not my type at all.”

When you are attracted to someone outside of your “type”, Be careful. Maybe it’s the real deal. University of Toronto Research confirms that it’s harder to date someone outside of your type, but it can often be worth it.

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5. You still love him two to three months later

Between two and three months, do a reading of your relationship. How strong is chemistry? Has this changed for any of you? If you calm down, here’s what to check: How fascinated are you with each other? You want to watch for signs that he’s “into you” outside of attraction.

Curiosity and fascination are both strong indicators that this is the real deal, especially when the first bursts of chemistry start to fade. Crushes always make you melt at the beginning, then break your heart at the end. Between crushes and heartbreak, many experiences await you.

Love at first sight experiences can rock your world and some are the real deal. If you’re currently in the middle of this roller coaster, fasten your seat belt and hold on, have fun and enjoy how it’s going.

There is nothing like a mind-numbing crush. Just check in after two to three months and be honest with what’s happening. If he is still in love with you, that is the best sign of all and you may have fallen in love at first sight with a man who is interested in the long term.

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Catherine Béhan is a highly qualified dating coach, freelance writer, and editor. She currently works as a Law of Attraction and Success Coach, where she uses her expertise in EFT to help people attract abundance into their lives.